I
am not the biggest fan of soaps more specifically Spanish soaps. I love their
food though and can’t wait to go to Rio for the 2017 Olympics (a Kenyan
Spectator not a runner mind you)….anyhow as I was saying I detest them for the
fake illusion they give on love and relationships. The women cry far too much
and the feminist in me shudders to think that the directors and creators of
these programs only think that women’s roles should be in the kitchen and
bedroom. Is it only me who notices that the Carlos Eduardo’s and Alehandro’s
are doctors, pilots or lawyers? While the Maria and Lucia’s are just…. …you
figure it out, still trying to!!!!Still I wonder when these doctors actually get
to practice when they are always tending to waterworks and rarely get to see
the inside of their offices or their patients for that matter.
Now don’t get me wrong I
know we all need to fantasies and zone out ever so often to be able to cope
with stuff life throws at us, and if soaps work for you, enjoy it.The only
thing we need to do is to be able to differentiate fantasy from reality and
incase the line has been blurred for you, Here’s what I know for sure…
I
am a whole person and so are you and your nana and the creepy guy across the
road or that random person you forgot where exactly you met them…get it!!!You
are complete and do not need someone else to come and make you whole or give
meaning to your life! You vicar will definitely tell you when two people come together
before the Lord in Holy matrimony they become one! Now, I would like to think
of this as a metaphor and besides what math teacher agrees that one+ one =one?
The illusion that without that ring on your finger or that man/woman (or
whatever your preference) by your side means you are incomplete or that
something earthshattering is wrong with you is a false impression that we must vehemently
refuse to believe in.If and when you decide to have this person in your life,
it should be to complement you not to complete you. Phrases such as ‘better
half’ are just bullocks to me.It is perfectly alright to be single if that
makes you happy and it is also perfectly alright to be in a relationship
whatever the form too, as long as you did not do it to be completed like some
incomplete math equation!
On
a positive note, most of these soaps actually have a teaching at the end. If
you are patient enough or have soap addicts around who can paraphrase ten
episodes in ten minutes you will observe that good always trumps evil. I know
for sure that no matter how long and hard you plot and scheme and even if you
do hurt your enemies, karma will come back to bite you hard. I know this may
take a long time and you might doubt this if you are the one wronged and you
might even lose hope along the way but let it be.do not take it upon yourself
to avenge wrongs done to you even if revenge is probably swift and just. It is
never worth it plus it’s just too fatiguing to even bother.
In
some industries, notably the film industry looks are of utmost importance. I am
glad I do not have such plastic friends who swear by looks. It is natural to be
attracted to beautiful and handsome people but if you think you must only date,
befriend or be seen with a runway or swimsuit model you are shallow. Looks may
inform us to people we might like but this cannot be the sole criterion. Looks
do fade away and no amount of Botox, Q10 or surgery can stop the ageing process.
I know for sure there exists very beautiful people but sometimes they take
advantage of their physical features and use it as an excuse to be mean and
conniving. It is with such people that I no longer see the beauty they posses.
I know for sure that the most beautiful people are not always the Ale Weks or
miss worlds but rather those simple people who do good deeds when the world
isn’t even watching. It is true we are who we are when nobody is looking.
I
know for sure that the intended market for soaps was definitely more so for the
female audience. I also know that every girl deserves to be treated like the princess
she is.It is ok to demand your man to pull chairs, open doors, stand to
acknowledge your presence on entry (standard male behavior which is lacking
this side of the Sahara) however it is not fair to demand anything that is not
considered standard or conventional from them. Plus marks to the chap who will
write you poems and leave love notes on your bathroom mirror or dance with you
in public with no music but let’s not hold it against those who don’t do these things.
Being a guy must be tough too...
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